Christmas is not always a jolly happy time for people. You may have a family that is not very supportive and mean. It is possible to maneuver a family that is not very supportive.

You are dreading spending time with family because you feel your family is mean and unsupportive. You may have to eat dinner with your perpetrator or a cousin that is verbally and physically abusive. Your family may call you names and say you are “fat” “stupid” or a “failure”. If you can make your own decision, consider who can spend your holiday with. You can choose to spend time with friends.

Maybe you can have a day alone and have a self-care day. Do what you want to do, watch what you want to watch, eat what you want to eat.

If you have to spend time with family, have support available. Who is someone you can call, text, or email if you are feeling uncomfortable or safe. Now it is a holiday and your support may not be available. Here are some support resources you can also reach out to. Have a way out. Go for a little while and say “Hi”, grab dinner and then leave to go to a friends house. Excuse your self to a safe space alone in the home to get away for a bit.

My wellness tip is to say “no”. If you are going to feel uncomfortable you can say “no”. If you can be alone or with supportive friends consider this as an option. If you must be around unsupportive family establish some support to reach out to. This is a rough time of the year, but we are almost through it. You can do it and there is support and help available to you.

How do you deal with mean and unsupportive family during the holidays?

Take care and see you next time.

* Dr. Stephanie Waitt, LPC is a psychotherapist in private practice in Sherman, Texas. Stephanie works with young and successful women to help restore balance and peace. She specializes in working with individuals with eating disorders, trauma, anxiety, and depression.